There are few mothers I know who are blessed with the opportunity (and the desire) to be a stay-at-home mom. For some of us mama’s we need an outlet for ourselves, and work provides that for us among the other obvious monetary reasons. For other mama’s their dream is to be a mother and a wife, and those two things provide plenty of work and rewards on their own. I find myself somewhere in the middle. I love being a mama, and given the opportunity, I would make the most out of being a stay-at-home mom. However our family, like many, is faced with the necessity of two incomes…so alas I continue to work.
That being said, my situation is different. I have the very rare opportunity to bring J with me to work every day. Yup, I work for my Dad. And when J came along, our agreement was that I would continue to work full time if J could come with me. Not that I had to beg or anything, this also means that my parents get to see their little one almost every day. Win-win. In a way I get the best of both worlds. I get to be with J every day, all day, and I get to earn a living. But there are always drawbacks…
For one, even though J is with me every day, I really don’t get to spend a lot of quality time with him. I do have a job to do every day. And even though he’s in the same room as me, and I get to give him snuggles all day long, he does not have my undivided attention unless he’s nursing for naptime. Then I have to try and squeeze as much productivity into his 30 minute naps as possible without waking him up with my typing or paper rustling.
On the pro side, I do get to see him every day all day long. And he gets to see his gramma and grampa almost that often too. I do love that part. He doesn’t constantly get sick from all the germies in daycare, and I’m not shelling out 1/2 (or more) of my paycheck every month to a daycare.
Then again, in daycare he would get a lot more social interaction with other kiddo’s on a regular and daily basis. He’d get to play in a setting built for him, and he’d probably get a lot more focused attention…
But isn’t it saying a lot that I get to be with him 24/7? Is that enough? Or too much? Or not enough? Or is he missing out?
Ahh, this must be the same battle that other mama’s have on a daily basis as well. What is really best for my kiddo? If I stay home, they get me but maybe not a lot of anyone else….but if I work then they don’t get enough of me and too much time in someone else’s care.
One of the many never ending battles that us mama’s face in the lifelong debate over what is best for our children and how to make the best out of whatever situation we are in as a family. Be it finances, needs, desires…it’s a matter of balancing what is best for the family and what is best for our kids. I’d like to think that no matter how “perfect” someone else’s situation seems, or how envious us mama’s get of other mama’s, that we are all having the same struggles. Somehow I find comfort in the fact that I’m probably not the only one wondering if I’m doing the right thing, or doing things right.
He does have a pretty good setup in my office though…his “office” space is bigger than mine!
Pretty sure he’s got more toys at work then at home!
Empty shelves and cardboard boxes are the best toys ever!
Water bottle baby gate?