My parents tell stories about me as a child. Hiding under the chairs at social gatherings or church. Clinging to their legs in the company of strangers, or even people I’d met but didn’t see on a daily basis. My stranger-danger was always on high alert. And being the older sister, I made sure to protect my little bro by keeping him hiding out right along side me. It wasn’t until I was in high school and part of the Speech Team (kind of like a competitive theatre team) that I started to come out of my shy-shell. I just wasn’t created as a social butterfly.
We had friends of the family who’s kids were younger than me and far more outgoing. Always talking to everyone and anyone. Always the center of attention. I never understood how they were that way, and just assumed it was because of their parents being social butterflies and passing that along to them.
Then J came along. He’s almost 3 now (OMG) and he is the quintessential social butterfly. Everywhere we go, he’s making conversation with random people. He’ll ask strangers at the store what something is. He wants to tell anyone in earshot about his favorite toy. The clients that come into my office hear all about his adventures, or his small water bottles that Pop-pop bought just for him. He’s a talker. A sharer. A little spit-fire.
I have no idea where he gets it from. Me and the Hubs are not particularly outgoing – at least not to that degree. J’s stranger-danger seems to be dangerously low at times though.
I love that he’s so trusting in a lot of ways. His trust makes him outgoing and adventurous. He has no boundaries for trying new things, meeting new people, sharing his story with the world. His ability to easily and effortlessly put himself out there will help him all his life.
I try and keep all that in mind on the days where my parental worries kick in. When I get anxious that all his trust will put him in a dangerous situation. It’s an internal struggle.
C isn’t old enough to see her whole personality yet. She loves to flirt with anyone that smiles at her, but she’s only now walking and is still fully focused on people she knows. Guess we will see!