You never know when it’s going to hit you. Granted if all of your friends or really anyone else around you is either pregnant or thinking of getting pregnant, it’s bound to catch up with you sooner than later. Or if you have a little one who’s about to turn a year…you’re in for it. The fever. Baby fever. I can feel it coming…
When the Hubby and I starting seriously talking about starting a family for ourselves, I had probably had Baby Fever for almost a year. I was ready as soon as we got married. I wouldn’t be surprised if most women are. But we made the plan to wait until the following October(ish) so that we could use our first year to take vacations and take advantage of being child-less. We took full advantage and went on 3 trips that summer, all the while my Baby Fever soaring to new heights. It seemed like there were babies everywhere. Most of my friends already had one or two, plus cousins, friends-of-friends, everywhere I looked there were babies. So once the fall hit, we were both ready. Going into it I told myself it would take a few months. But as luck would have it, we didn’t have long to wait for little J to come along.
Now that J is almost a year, I can feel it coming on again. Partially because we want our kiddos to be close in age, and partly because as soon as your little one reaches that first major milestone you suddenly find yourself missing being pregnant, feeling that little one become something inside your belly, you even miss giving birth. Whoa. I’d always heard that childbirth is the worst pain most easily forgotten. Truth. I remember it hurt like hell and being in labor for 14+ hours only to have a c-section wasn’t a picnic, but I’d do it again in a minute, no doubts. And with the added bonus of more than a few of my friends also thinking of starting or expanding their families in the near future, it fuels the fire even more.
The Hubby asked me the other day how we would manage two kiddos. Yup, the money will be tight(er) and we will sleep even less than we do now, but we’ll figure it out. That’s what you do. Children give you a reason to find a way. You make it work, then one day you look back and can’t imagine how you did it. But you’d still do it all over again without hesitation. I’ve tried to think back on what we used to do in our free time or after work the days pre-baby…for the life of me I can’t really remember. Honestly it was probably pretty much the same as what we do now, only we probably watched more TV. Babies change everything and still seem to fit into your life like they always belonged there.
There are always things to figure out before you start or add to your family, but those things also just seem to fall into place sometimes. Yes it would be ideal to have a house, less balance on the credit card, money set aside for paying all the hospital bills, etc. But not having those things doesn’t mean you aren’t ready or able to handle a family. You make it work. There’s always a reason to wait, but then again the longer you wait the larger the chance someday you’ll look back and wonder why you waited so long.
And if our next one (or two) is anywhere as cute as the first…then bring it on 🙂
eesh I think my uterus just skipped a beat…BABY FEVER!!!!